So I've seen people doing this thing lately and I don't know what it is but I felt like doing it so heck I'll do it, too! 1: Do you have a crush at the moment?
I'm in love and in serious relationships with several people right n--oh, wait, you meant in real life? Seriously, video game, movie, and book characters don't count? What about RP? No?
I see. So you're THAT kind of meme lol.
In all seriousness... eeh I don't get crushes too often. I've never been in a romantic relationship so at this point I don't know what to expect or how to act on it even if I am interested. If by "crush" you mean "someone I get all squee-y with and want to tear the clothes off of" no, not really. But I have a person or two that I'm close to, and who I might like to try dating, if something like that ever popped up.
2: Have you ever been deeply in love?
Not to anyone REAL. LMAO that sounds so pathetic. Some of you might understand the depth of my love for, say, Zuko, Alistair, Kaidan, Aragorn, Edward Elric, Mustang...
No, I'm just kidding. Sort of, anyway. I've never been in love.
3: Longest relationship you've ever been in?
Infinity. And by that I mean zero. Zero anything.
4: Have you ever changed for someone?
Changed for someone? Not in the way like "You must dress like THIS to impress them." People who want you to change aren't really worth it. That being said, I've changed my mind and opinions based on what other people say, if they make good, thoughtful arguments about it that I can get behind. And I don't see anything wrong (and a lot of things right) with that sort of change
5: How is your relationship with your ex?
Oh yeah we're totally cool with one another. You can't have someone that doesn't exist, yo!
6: Have you ever been cheated on?Only in cards.
7: Have you ever cheated?
In cards. And monopoly. Because it's so easy to snag another 500 bill when everyone's looking away >:33
8: Would you date someone who's well known for cheating?
I'd probably be a little wary of it but I wouldn't completely not give them a chance, at least in theory. It depends on what type of person they are, though. Cheating usually goes with a type of personality that I frankly just don't find attractive. But someone can be well-known for cheating if they were dating someone and fell in love with someone else, and the person who they were dating spread it around like wildfire, made them look completely heartless, and probably made up a bunch of other circumstances in which they were cheating that just becomes common knowledge. Maybe he's a swell guy. Maybe he just didn't like the girl and loved someone else and did something stupid and didn't regret breaking up with her before making the moves on his love. This shit is complicated, guys. Unless it's not.
9:What's the most important part of a relationship?
Being comfortable around one another. They don't have to be around all the time or in every part of your life--you just have to be able to come back to them or hang out with them when you're stressed and instantly feel better just because you love being around them. It doesn't even matter if you talk about the thing that's stressing you out, because when you're with them you calm down and realize it's not the end of the world. Also, laughter. And fun. If you can't have fun with them and be around them, it doesn't matter how much you talk to each other about your problems, it doesn't matter how much you think you love them or how much you do for them. You'll never be able to make it long-term with someone who you don't want to spend time with.
...yeah, this is my relationship advice. Me, who's never dated anyone. Listen up, plebeians.
10: Do you like to be in serious relationships or just flings?
Probably serious relationships? Again, what defines this, though? You can have a long-term sort of friend-with-more relationship with someone that you're apart from but who you love being around. It's not serious, but it's not a fling, either, and it doesn't sound too bad. And you can have someone that you meet in Thailand or something on vacation and who you just want to spend all of your time with and kiss on the beach and all that snazzy romantic stuff, even knowing that you're both going to have to go back to your homes on opposite sides of the country or world or solar system or something. That's a fling, but dang if it isn't a fling worth taking.
11: When you are dating someone do you believe in going on "breaks"?Um... no. Not at all, jeez. How can you see someone else with a clear conscience if you're on "break" with someone else? Or maybe that's not the point. I'm not sure, it just sounds like a sort of silent treatment to me. "I'm breaking with you!" "Not if I break with you first!" It's a very short-term solution. It goes back to the not wanting to spend time with people, you know? If you don't like spending time with them, and need a "break" because you're so sick of being around them or in a relationship with them, then it's probably not the best relationship to be in. Go meet a nice guy on a roller coaster.
12: How many people have you ever hooked up with?
I have hooked up two people before. I felt very influential >:333 but personally naah. Never even been kissed. Or kissed. Is there a difference?
13: What's one thing you regret saying/doing in a previous relationship?
I regret nothing. Actually I do regret the "nothing." Maybe I regret not trying something out sooner.
14: What age do you think is appropriate for kids to start having sex?
I think the word "kids" and "sex" don't exactly go together too well. If you look at someone like "yo it's a kid!" then they're too young to have sex. I mean, I'm in college and people still think I'm a kid, and heck I do too. Have I had sex. Nope!
Wait that wasn't what I was trying to say. Eeh I'm not sure. Sometimes I don't think it's appropriate for people of a certain age to even be dating. Go out into the world and have some experiences, friends! If you have someone that you want to bring all over the world-slash-country-slash-town (-slash-solar-system) with you, then sure. Go for it. If you're like... a certain age, you know? It doesn't have as much to do with age as it does being responsible enough for things like that. And knowing what you want and what you're doing. There are adults I know who aren't responsible enough for that shiz.
Half-assed, avoidant answer. Woot woot!
15: Do you believe in the phrase "age is just a number"?
Not after you're, like, in your mid-twenties. Before that, though, the gap between different age groups is pretty big, and no it's not just a number. Any psychology or development class will tell you the huge differences between all sorts of stages in life, and the reason people our age don't like dating people younger than them is because there's a big difference between being, like, eighteen and sixteen. I don't think middle school kids should be dating high school kids, and I don't think HS underclassmen should be dating college kids. Beyond that, I don't think there's a problem. There is a time when age really does just become a number, but it's not at the age most people are when they say that particular phrase.
16: Do you believe in "love at first sight"?
Not.. really. I believe in foreshadowing or interest. I believe you can love someone you got a really good first impression from. I believe that you can fall in love pretty quickly. But generally my rule is that the more quickly you fall in love, the more quickly it will fade. There are exceptions, of course, and a lot of them. But in general I try to be a little cautions. And apparently that's grounded me in the "forever alone: category hehe.
17: Do you believe it's possible to fall in love on the internet?
Not really. Mostly it's just because I personally am not the same person online who I am in... what do you call it, the real world? I'm sort of the same, but there are definite differences. It's easy to make yourself seem better, seem like a person you sort of want more to be, and leave out important aspects of your life. I believe you can be friends with people online. I believe you can meet with people online that you really like. But the domain of "online" is a very specific set of things you can do with one another, and I'm a firm believer in people DOING things with one another. Going out, and doing things. People might think they love someone online, but I... I don't know. My experiences with people loving each other online are very... maybe not that good in general. There's a lot of drama, a lot of people pretending they're someone other than they are. Maybe it's because they don't like some aspects of themselves and don't want the other person to see, which is why they want an online relationship.
My point in general is this: you can MEET people online, you can become interested in them online. You can maybe even start falling in love with them online. But actually falling in love, and being in love? That requires people to get some face-time, and not just through Skype or some other chat, sitting in a bedroom. Meeting each other and going places, talking, doing things. I like doing things. Doing things is fun.
(FrosTek forever, btw. I think you guys met online and heck you're my one real life OTP. So rock on, you're the exception to all of this. Or maybe the example of this, if you guys have met and done things together hehe)
18: What do you consider a deal breaker?
Being really boring or dramatic, trying to seem like something you're not, or trying to get me to change. Also mayyyybe (unfortunately) height. I can't find myself interested in someone who's shorter than me. As much as I love, like, those anime films where there's a short guy (*cough*Edward Elric, Yoshimori) and I ship them so hard with girls who make fun of their height. I know they'll grow or something, yee.
19: How do you know it's time to end a relationship?
When you start avoiding them, or making excuses to not be around them. Fighting is definitely (in my opinion) not a reason to end the relationship. Unless the fighting is like, constant, and you no longer want to be around them ever. Fighting is pretty healthy. It's when you just sort of stop trying that it's run it's course.
Again, I'm not sure about this one, since I have no experience. I think when it's time to end it, you'll just know. You'll shrivel inside when you see them, you cry by yourself alone. Neither of you wants to spend time with one another. All them depressing things.
20: Are you currently in a relationship?
21: Do you think people who have dated can stay friends?
Yeah, for sure! Well... not always. But the type of dating I like the best, where you want to do things and hang out and make each other laugh even with other people, definitely. If the relationship ends terribly, like where someone cheated or betrayed the other person, I really think that ruins most chances for friendships.
22: Do you think people should date their friends?
I don't think you should date someone just because they're your friend xDD. I believe in meeting new people, but I think you have to be friends before you date. Even if you're friends with something in mind first, you know? I'm not saying "DON'T DATE STRANGERS, LOOK THROUGH YOUR POOL OF FRIENDS AND PICK ONE!" I'm just saying a relationship has to be more than straight-up romance. And I imagine it couldn't hurt if they're friends with your friends, so you can all hang out and have fun together.
23: How many relationships have you had?
24: Do you think love can last forever?
Forever's a pretty long-ass time. It's also an incredibly corny concept. I DO think you can love someone for as long as you live. Not even just romance, either. You can love friends and family "forever." You can love someone forever that you were ONCE in a relationship with. I think people have a huge capacity for love, and that it's both more complicated and simpler than people try to make it seem. More complicated in that you don't just stop loving someone because you're broken up with them, because you're apart from them, or because they're dating someone else. Simpler because you don't HAVE to, and don't have to put as much thought into it. Love is just love. It doesn't mean sex or romantic feelings. It means you love to be around them, and when you're with them, you also love yourself.
25: Do you believe love can conquer all things?Lmao no. What does that even mean? I think love's pretty strong, but it's not a weapon. It's not something you brandish to defeat enemies or solve problems. It's a safe place that you can go to. A little refuge in the world where your monsters shrink and your fears aren't quite so dark as you thought they were. Love can give you the strength to conquer all things, because you suddenly believe they're worth it, that you're strong enough, or that they're not so tough.
26: Would you break up with someone your parents didn't approve of?My parents just want me to date someone LMAO. I could pick Mr. one-armed purple mowhawk with 72 piercings and a tattoo on his face, and they'd be like "MY BABY IS GROWING UP!"
Maybe that's a bit of an exaggeration. I don't think that my parents would disapprove of anyone that I chose to date. If they did disapprove, they probably would just let me do my thing. And if they REALLY didn't, there's probably some sort of reason that I'd take into consideration. But it's pretty unlikely, yo.
27: If you could go back in time and give yourself one piece of advice about dating what would it be?
28: Do you think long distance relationships can work?
Eeh I'm not sure. Not really. I believe you can have a sort of casual long-distance relationship. Or one that's temporarily long-distance, if you've already been dating them for some time. But I don't think you can have a serious one.
29: What do you notice first about another person?
It probably depends on what I'm doing, how engaged I am in meeting them, what my mood is, and so on. It's never the same thing.
30: Are you straight, bi, gay or pansexual?
What, nothing for us asexual people out there? I'm hurt T.T
I don't really look at people and be like "they're attractive!" But when I think of dating someone, or I love a fictional character, it's always a guy. Which probably means I'm straight.
Also, is pansexual really a thing? I feel like it's a subset of bisexual, and not really its own category.
31: Would it bother you if your partner suffered from any mental illness?
It would probably depend on the type of mental illness. I'm generally pretty put-off by people with mental illnesses, so I probably wouldn't be in a relationship with them in the first place.
32: Have you ever been in an abusive relationship?
Pfft. I pity the poor fool that tries to get all domestic-violent on me. I feel like I really want to fight someone or go all-out on them just to see if I could, if the situation ever demanded it, but I think of myself as a relatively good and nice person, so no way would I do it unless it was self-defense. So I pity anyone
who does something which actually warrants self-defense.
33: Do you want to get married one day?I want to be in one of those things where you live with them and have kids and stuff but aren't actually married and then in ten years the government's like "You're married -_- deal with it" and we're just like "lol"
34: What do you think about getting your partner's name tattooed?AHAHA this just reminded me of something really funny. I have this private beach house on Lake Superior and I'm related distantly to most other people who own beach houses in that little quiet strip of beach. So every summer I would hang out with my semi-half-cousins Jessica and Brittney but never really super knew them, because we'd never talk between and some summers they'd be vacationing at a different time than us. But I saw them like last summer or the summer before and Brittney had a new boyfriend and since it was at the beach he had his shirt off. And he's like this 16 year old kid with this massive "BRITTNEY" tattooed on his side from his armpit to his hip in fancy Old English script. And I was trying so, so, so hard not to laugh as I met him, imagining the day where they would inevitably break up and he would only ever be able to date girls named "Brittney."
Anyway, no. I think it's so dumb xDD especially when it's not subtle like that at all.
35: Could you be in a relationship without sex?
Man I have no idea. Doesn't everyone have at least one of those? You don't have sex the second you start dating them, do you? DO YOU? AM I MISSING SOMETHING!?!?!?
I feel like a relationship has sex later on. But wait for that stuff. Maybe.
36: Are you still a virgin?
You could probably sacrifice me to a dragon if you're into that sort of thing.
37: What's more important: Looks or personality?
Both are pretty dang important. I think they feed off of one another. If you like the way they look, you get talking to them. Through their personality, you fall in love with them. Then, because you're in love with them, they're even more beautiful than they were before. You know that thing that's like... when you look at someone, you don't just see their face but everything you relate to their face? That's how someone becomes beautiful, even if they're not beautiful at first glance. I probably wouldn't date someone that I was repulsed by the first time I met them, and there are certain things that will definitely trump personality. But I believe personality plays a bigger part in importance overall.
38: Do you enjoy love films?
Only if they're romantic comedies and are good ones, where you actually root for them to be together and they're not just in love at first sight. I have a few love stories which I really REALLY like, but most of them are just like "eeh." My top three are "Love Actually," "When Harry met Sally," and "Silver Linings Playbook." There are probably some others, but those are ones which just completely blew me away with how awesome they are. Mostly because they're funny but not stupidly so. They're realistic, and there are problems and other things going on besides the relationship itself. And each of these three has its own unique comment on love and relationships in general.
39:Have you ever given anyone/received roses?
I have received many roses, actually xDDD. Roses and those little gifts and candy canes that you can buy through school and have them sent in secret. I gave some of those too, but always to my friends and family, and never anonymous.
40: Have you ever had a valentine?
Like.. received a valentine? Yes. As in "be my valentine?" No.
41: What's your imagination of a "perfect date"?
Hmm... I'm not sure. It would probably be something along the lines of doing something REALLY fun like going to a theme park or to the beach or on a boat and hanging out for a long time and having food, and then maybe settling down somewhere after. Fun, and then comfort. And more fun, like with a movie at home or something. Or baking together xDD. That would be a really long date.
42: Have you ever read "Romeo & Juliet"?
Have people not? Naaw jk XD I don't think Romeo and Juliet is the ultimate love story. I think it's quite absurd. And in the movies, they all wear funny pants.
43: What's more important: Your partner or your friends?
If both of them are worth your time, you shouldn't have to choose between them. The one that makes you choose is the one that you shouldn't have to be around. If both make you choose, throw up your hands and call it ridiculous, then walk away and wait for them to get some sense.
44: Would you consider yourself "romantic"?
Probably not. Maybe I get romantic ideas sometimes, but I don't exactly practice them.
45: Could you imagine to date one of your current friends?
I.... yeah. Probably.
46: Have you ever been "friendzoned"?
Nope! But I have friendzoned people so much it's not even funny. It's probably kinda mean.
47: Which "famous couple" is your favorite?
Famous couple, what the heck? NO! I'm going to pick my OTP instead. ROY MUSTANG AND RIZA HAWKEVE FOREVER!
48: What's your favorite love song?
Um... love song? I don't know. I have a lot of songs that are indie songs about love that I like, but no one's probably heard of any of them hehe.
49: Have you ever broken someone's heart?
Yeah, I... I think so.
50: If you're single, why do you think you are?
I just get scared. I don't know what to do in any sort of situation, so I default to neutral and don't really engage. They probably take that as a cue that I'm not interested, even if I am. I've had a couple of times where I almost get close to something and then back out really quickly. I don't know. Can we get back to the fun questions, please?
51: Would you rather date someone who's rich but a douchebag or someone who's poor but a nice guy?
Poor nice guy, probably! We could become forest people!
52: Are you good at giving other people advice regarding dating/ relationships?HAH no. No, I'm probably not. I like to pretend I am, and sometimes I give advice, and then I remind them not to listen to me because I'll just destroy everything.
53:Are you jealous of couples when you're single?
No, never. Except... once. Maybe. I'm not sure if it was jealousy. It certainly wasn't because I wanted to date either of them or anything.
54: How important is it to make a relationship official (p.e. on facebook)?I'm like never on facebook, so I don't think that applies. As far as TELLING everyone, I think you should have a date or two first before you announce it, to make sure it's not just going to be like a one-week thing.
55: Would you consider yourself "clingy", "overly attached" or "jealous"?
Probably neither. I'm more the type who distances herself from people xDDD
56: Have you ever "destroyed" a relationship?
I... aah goddammit. Not my own, but I feel a little responsible for the end of someone else's, even if I still think it was sort of the right thing.
57: Do you think it's silly to consider suicide because of a broken heart?
"Silly" isn't quite the word I'm looking for. I think it's kind of stupid, though. Let yourself get over the pain and initial shock before acting on the fact that you feel you can't live without them. Everything heals, and I really don't think any one life isn't worth anything anymore because of the opinion or actions of one other person.
58: Are you the "dominant" or the "submissive" part in a relationship?
I have no idea. I'd like to think that we would share dominance.
59: Have you ever forgotten important dates like your partner's birthday or your anniversary?
Never had one xDD I'd probably forget though, unfortunately.
60:What's your opinion on open relationships?
It really depends. If both parties agree it's open and they're apart or something... whatever you're into, man.
61: Who's more important: Your partner or your family?
Fucking... why would you have to CHOOSE? I mean I get why but just... meh.
62: How do you define "cheating"?I don't think emotional attachment is cheating. Not if it's JUST pure emotional attachment. Anything above kissing, I'd consider cheating no matter what. Everything under that depends on circumstances.
63: Is watching porn while being in a relationship inappropriate?
I... don't know? Is this together or separate? Just... I DONT KNOW!
64: Do you think Valentine's Day is overrated?
Naah. I think it's scary, though. It's when all your guy friends suddenly realize you're single and make the moves on you all at the same time. I've lost a few friends because of things that have happened on valentines day. If I can get through a valentine's day and not have been put on the spot at least one, it's a successful year in my book!
65: Would you consider yourself a "cuddler"?
PROBABLY not. But hey, you never know! Maybe if I actually dated someone.